The Interactor

The Interactor is a visual tool, or map, which can help an individual modify their own behaviors in hopes of creating more effective social interactions.

Did you ever wonder why some interactions go great while others go horribly wrong? Did you ever wonder why some people are so difficult to interact with? Do you hate making the same mistakes over and over and wish there was a way to change that?

As I have discovered, and long to share, the decision-making and interactive processes are repetitive. However, WHAT is interacting is variable.

By learning the elements within the decision-making process (The Wiring Diagram and Tools) and also learning the interactive process, (The Interactor), you will then be able to “see” yourself and others from a new perspective that will clearly show you why those troublesome interactions took place.

When we have good interactions, we say “Great!” …and move on without reflecting on what made it great. However, when we have poor interactions, we say, “What just happened? What’s wrong with that person?” Then we replay the mental video over and over trying to “diagnose” who and/or what failed, and where and when did it go bad.

The Wiring Diagram and The Interactor do NOT change life. Things happen, and usually for a good reason, whether we ever know that reason or not.

What these theories DO provide are two relatively simple maps that help you pinpoint the interactive failures. More than likely, you will find that YOU are a part of the problem, not just the other person, or people.

To me, this knowledge is like cheating. When I enter into any interaction with this foreknowledge, I clearly see who I’m interacting with and where their initial perspective lays. That initial perspective (See The Interactor – Social Scale) influences several of the internal elements within a common interaction.

My goal is to achieve the best interactive outcome for all those involved. But, at its worst, my goal is to have the highest quality interactive outcome for ME. This is my life, these are my stories (the past), this is my future …separate from yours.

This knowledge will NOT change the challenges you face daily with your interactions, but …it will definitely change the way you perceive them.

Please, ask me questions. You will find that my answers come directly from these two conjoined theories, and you will find that my answers are as repetitive as the processes themselves.